How do I find the right partner? This is the question which many folks ask themselves. Definitely you would like to spend the rest of your life with someone that loves and understands you. You do not want to be in problems with your companion always but you’ve got a desire to be happy with him/her.
It’s my view that you should be clear first in your mind what character you are looking for in a partner. There are numerous failed relationships which if their reasons of failures are ascertained, spouses will be much aware of the don’ts.
My friend Joe is currently finding himself craving for the right partner but he finds this to be challenging. All of the girls he has dated so far have disappointed him since they didn’t match his expectations. Even the ones friends and family recommend to him.
When I asked Joe what expectation he had for his dream fiance I was upset to learn that the shape of the body, attractiveness and body size was what he was mainly targeting. He did not consider other important attributes such as high self-esteem, honest etc.
I advised him to write down a list of all the qualities he was looking for in his dream partner and put it out to the universe, then trust it that it’ll deliver him the right woman at the right moment.
So, what do you have to consider when searching for the right partner to establish a long term relationship with? Before even you start looking for the right partner, you need to make a list of all of the qualities you want your dream to possess. Be flexible with your list but you should not compromise to an extent of not identifying the qualities you are looking for.
There are qualities you need to focus on since they will determine your compatibility with your companion. It doesn’t necessarily imply that you won’t work the differences if you’re incompatible with your partner in some areas. Work out the incompatible differences.
When searching for the right partner, consider what things you happen to share in common. What things do you like doing with your potential partner? Are there things you like doing and you wish to share them with your partner? When you share them, how does he/she react? How exactly does he/she feel about them?
On the other hand, are there things your spouse likes doing and wants to share them with you? How do you react when your partner shares them with you? You should know the things you and your companion like doing together and the ones you do not like doing together.
Hold a discussion with your potential partner. The discussion will enable you to decide on a number of things before you enter into a long time relationship with your potential partner. Conflicts in relationships are mostly due to money. Discuss about finances. How does your partner feel about spending money and savings it? What about investing savings?
Talk about family. You should answer these questions, how many kids will you have? What values will you like your children to have? Do you value educating your kids? What faith will your family belong to? How will you handle in-laws? How will you distribute responsibilities and housework? Will you spend time together?
I assure you that you won’t change an individual when you marry him/her. Thus it’s better you know your boyfriend or girlfriend well before you get married to him/her.